-Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow
And of course this applies to all of of life. Amazing how Csikszentmihalyi can distil it down to its essence.
The source of all of our conflict is our own expectations, and the sooner we can step outside of ourselves and our own agenda and see things from others' perspectives, and help them reach their goals, the sooner we will be happy ourselves.
What we need is symbiosis in the place of survival of the fittest, compassion in the place of competition. We need to realize that we're all in this together, and that's actually really cool.